Single Stern Seniors: Futures, but No Options

Written by Helen Wang

Here is the paradox: many of us actually want to be in relationships (indeed, we constantly question the reasons for our singleness). We are searching, but halfheartedly—a Bumble date here, a Tinder date there. Then, we give up because it doesn’t work out.

Within six months of graduation, 98% of Stern students are employed. Although this statistic is a common metric of success, let’s consider another important part of the future: a life partner. Within six months of graduation, the percentage of the same population in relationships, is lower—much lower. Although no empirical evidence has been collected to support my hypothesis, a quick survey of students would seem to agree with my conclusion.

So why is it that seniors at Stern think they’re single? The most common answer is along the lines of “I like doing my own thing” or “I don’t want to put myself out there.” By contrast, on other college campuses, “Ring before Spring!” is a common phrase tossed around. Students there put their names on the campus chapel waitlist years in advance to secure a wedding venue. At Stern, we are extremely focused on achieving career success—and there is nothing wrong with ambition. As driven Millennials in New York City, the opportunities are endless and, consequently, no one wants to give up their valuable time to pursue others.

Here is the paradox: many of us actually want to be in relationships (indeed, we constantly question the reasons for our singleness). We are searching, but halfheartedly—a Bumble date here, a Tinder date there. Then, we give up because it doesn’t work out.

What if we approached dating with the same focus that we have when recruiting for jobs? We attend networking events and interview at different firms—some we like more than others. In the same way, you can go out with multiple people, and someone might surprise you. The dating process takes time and patience, but we should be willing to try, and try again. Undoubtedly, there will be rejection—but, then again, no one receives an offer from every firm. After graduation, we have much to look forward to in our promising careers. Now is the best time to explore our personal options as well.

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